In the last 16 months I have gone through a crazy range of emotions. Some days all I want to do is talk adoption. Other days I desperately want to gush over cute baby/kid things. Then there are those days where I feel super cynical and could cry at the drop of a dime. Our adoption journey has been kind of unpredictable. It’s taught us to let go of what we cannot control. However, the constant has always been my partner in crime–Eli.

To know my husband is to love him. Hmm…how do I even describe him? He is by far one of the quirkiest individuals I have ever had the privilege of meeting (don’t worry, he would take this as a compliment). He is incredibly intelligent, quick-witted, and is one of the hardest workers you will ever meet. To say that I admire him is an understatement.
Ever since we decided to adopt, Eli has been super conscientious every step of the way of my emotions, feelings, and wants. He encouraged an adoption party because he wanted me to have the special moment moms-to-be get. As we started to look at adopting older sibling groups, he looked me right in the eyes and asked how I would feel about never raising a newborn. When we were going through some of our lowest times in our journey so far, he looked to me first, asking what he could do to make things better for me.

My husband will be the most incredible father. Yes, because of his quirks, intelligence, work ethic, and fantastic sense of humor. But even more importantly, he will be the most incredible father because of his compassion, sensitivity, and love. This is the side everyone doesn’t always get to see but is by far his best side. This is the man who will pull over on the side of the road to help a lady who is having car problems. The man who prays for people who have wronged him. The man who hates to spend money but will give generously and willingly to those in need. The man who never blinked an eye to never having biological children.

No doubt…as I continue to embark on life’s adventures, I have an incredible “partner in crime” in my dear Elijah. A man who really embodies what it means to be simplex.  Just another thing I love about him.

~Chelsea