It’s been a long time everyone! When we started this blog a few years ago, we had no clue where our journey would take us.  It’s amazing to see how far we’ve come. Reading back on past blog posts is a real interesting experience, and let’s face it, it’s sometimes downright embarrassing.  Although we have been waiting to adopt for quite some time, I am beyond thankful to have had the time to educate myself. The desire to have a family should never outweigh going through the process as informed and ethically as possible.  

Our goal throughout our blog has been to show the very “simplex” process of building a family through adoption.  We’ve shared the highs, the lows, our mistakes, our “aha” moments, and learning curves in between. And just as our adoption journey has evolved, morphed, and changed, our blog will be doing something very similar.  

Right now we have been officially matched with two children and are going through the process to eventually transition them into our home.  The gravity of what this means is not lost on us. So in the future our blog will probably look a little different. Although Eli and I have chosen to share some of our experiences through this blog, we will not be sharing our future children’s experiences, identity, etc. via this blog.  It’s not our story to share and we will always put our children first. Our future children will be coming to us with an entire history. Many people are curious and therefore ask questions, but other people are just plain “nosy”, for lack of better words. It is not my or my future children’s job to satisfy nosiness or curiousity through sharing the specifics of my future children’s history.  Their history is just that–theirs. People also tend to make assumptions. And often these assumptions are rooted in stereotypes, biases, and preconceived ideas of what people think children, specifically older children, who are being adopted have endured. Please know, I’m not discouraging you to ask questions. Please do…but please also understand that just because you ask the question, I may respectfully decline to answer it.  If you are truly curious to learn more about adoption, transracial adoption, trauma and trauma informed care, parenting strategies, etc., please let me know and I would be more than happy to point you in the direction of a wide variety of fantastic resources.

 What we will share are some more general experiences, opinions, lessons learned, resources, etc. We have some great ideas for future blog posts:

·     Information regarding connected parenting (TBRI) and why we are choosing to use this parenting style/technique

·     Why it’s not enough to be simply against racism but the importance of actively being anti-racist

·     What white privilege is and how to confront your own and without fragility

·     Technology and its role in kids’ lives

·     Resources we love and why we use them

·     Among many, many other things

What we would love is a little help from all of you.  We would love to do a Q/A post at some time. What questions do you have for us?  What would you like to know a little bit more about? Also, we would love suggestions for future blog posts that you would like to see.  We’ve learned so much and love the opportunity to interact with others and share what we have learned. Our summer has been simplex and absolutely beautiful and we are excited to continue to write future blog posts for Simplexity.

~Chelsea