On the morning of June 6th, Eli and I got the most simplex phone call of our entire lives.  We were being asked to be “matched” with two children. After a lot of tears, a few joyful whoops, and a lot of discussion, we said “YES”.  So what does this mean…well, that we are further than we’ve ever been. That the goal for all involved is to have us adopt these children, pending everything goes the way it should.  It’s happened…and we are moving forward.

This has been quite the journey.  There have been many peaks and a few valleys, but we’ve learned.  We’ve needed that time to learn. And we appreciate the support and love of all of our family and friends.

Now it’s more important than ever to educate.  So that’s why we’d like to tell you a bit about where we are and where we will be going forward.  

We aren’t sure how long this will take.  And that’s okay. The goal is always what’s in the best interest of our children–a smooth transition and permanency in a forever loving home.

We will not be sharing the details of our children’s story.  Please be careful of some of the questions you ask (you are talking about our future children and our children’s parents) and really avoid making assumptions.  Our children’s story is just that…their story. This may mean that going forward our blog may look a bit different.

Our children aren’t “lucky”.  For us this has been intentional, but it hasn’t been for our children.  They don’t and shouldn’t have any obligation to feel “lucky” or “blessed”.  We have been intentional in pursuing these children. We are blessed. We are lucky.  And they will add so much to our family.

And last but not least, please, if you plan to have a presence in our family’s life, begin to educate yourself on adoption, racism, trauma, among many other things.  I’m happy to recommend a variety of articles, websites, and books. You can start with In on It: What Adoptive Parents Would Like You to Know About Adoption by Elisabeth O’Toole as well as White Fragility by Robin DiAngelo.  I have copies of both if you would like to borrow them.

We are still on this wild ride.  We’ve learned a lot, embraced one another, and know first hand just how beautifully messy a miracle can be.

~Chelsea